Frequently Asked Questions
Who is your ideal client?
Most often, I hear from clients that they get somewhere with our sessions that they have not been able to in years of therapy or with other coaches. So nowadays ideal clients tend to be those who may have tried other providers but never got the resolutions they were looking for!
Other than that, I have a broad and varied background that enables me to take on clients in many different contexts, whether it’s in their personal lives or in the workplace, or in entrepreneurial and startup situations. I also have extensive experience in the health arena and have roots in biohacking and personal training as well as functional medicine.
Having met with over 900 clients across many different demographics, age groups, and situations, I have a lot of experience in all aspects of our human existence.
Most notably, it is the client themselves that need to be ready and willing for change. Ultimately, it is up to the client and their desire for change that drives success and resolution in whatever coaching topics they bring.
Openness to the possibilities is also ideal, as often we may need to explore other aspects of our being to gain resolution. Resolutions may need to come from areas they may not expect; this happens a lot when we are coaching the mind, body, and spirit together!
How does the process start?
Clients will contact me and we will setup an initial discovery session to see if there is a fit between coach and client. We will hear what the client’s needs are and whether it makes sense to enter into a coaching engagement. We will also check for rapport and make sure there is a good personal connection between coach and client.
If it makes sense to start, then I will send a coaching agreement via Dropbox Sign via email. Once that is signed, then I will send the first bill through Square and schedule our first session.
If the relationship will be ongoing, we will likely try to find a regular weekly time to meet.
What does a client need to do to prepare for the coaching engagement with you?
Preparation for the engagement includes:
- A quiet place to meet, where you will be undisturbed for the duration of the session. See What would make my meeting environment optimal for coaching? below.
- Materials for note taking. It is highly recommended to take notes so have a pen and paper handy. You *can* take notes on your phone or via typing on computer but I would shy away from that. There is something visceral and more effective about exercising your handwriting skills over that of typing. I would recommend pen and paper but, ultimately, digital is fine.
- At least one topic to discuss. It is OK to bring many. Our first session will be preparatory and establish high level goals for our engagement together. We will work together to bring all of it to light, organize it, and set ourselves on a path to resolving all of it.
- Readiness for change!
- A willingness and open-ness to change, as well as the possibilities.
What does a client need to do to prepare for a session?
Ideally, a client would show up with at least one topic to be coached on. That keeps the client engaged, meaning they have thought at least a little about the session and have prepared in part by having at least one topic for coaching.
If the client shows up without a topic, it is still OK and we will try to generate a topic to discuss, as well as check-in on progress on topics from the past.
If a client shows up to sessions often without topics, it will likely generate the inquiry of, what has you showing up to coaching every time without anything to work on?
From previous sessions, we may have had items to work on. Clients often are in progress from session to session, and we will check-in on progress as well as problem solve.
How will we meet?
I do all my meetings with Zoom. Hopefully that is familiar to you!
Occasionally I will coach via phone, but I use it more as a backup for when the internet goes down. Generally, I have found cell networks to be unreliable for calls over 30 minutes and can make for disrupted calls.
What would make my meeting environment optimal for coaching?
These are things that would optimize our ability to have a great session:
- Ensure privacy. Please alert all others in your vicinity that you are to be undisturbed during our session time.
- Ensure all disturbances are managed. Turn off all notifications and alerts. Quit all communication apps, like Slack, email, Facebook Messenger. Watch out for browser windows logged into Gmail, Facebook, LinkedIn, or similar which may beep upon receiving messages.
- A quiet room where you can be undisturbed for the whole session is ideal. Try not to have other people in the same room, or vicinity where you can be heard. Creation of a safe space to express your thoughts and feelings can be crucial to finding resolutions.
- Put your cellphone on airplane mode, or Do Not Disturb.
- I would highly recommend using a wired internet connection. I have seen clients who are literally sitting next to their router have poor Zoom sessions. WIFI is of course acceptable if you cannot plug in.
- Meetings can happen over cell internet, but we may end up turning off our video streams and doing it only through voice.
- Pets may be OK, but it is my experience that pets LOVE Zoom. They may often jump up on laps to see what is so interesting on the screen.
How frequent will we meet?
A good cadence of meetings depends on a client’s urgency and their schedule, as well as my schedule.
It also depends on post session “homework” where the client will need to go off and try something, or process something internally. Time will be needed for either or both to happen, before we meet again.
Typically, clients will meet once a week if they are engaged, committed, and have urgency. A weekly cadence also allows a week in between sessions to do their work after the session.
Cadence can expand out to every 2, 3 or even 4 weeks dependent on activities and both client and coach’s schedules. However, I would not recommend booking sessions with more than a month in between meetings. I have observed that people start forgetting what happened at the last session if too much time has passed.
How long should I expect a session to last?
Sessions are typically booked at an hour.
In my practice I have had sessions go as short as 20 minutes and as long as an hour and a half. Note that session time can be very fluid and is determined not by rate but progress and what happens inside. We usually try to end by 60 minutes.
You should not expect full hour sessions simply because you paid for them; sessions will end based on the progress made within a session as well as the client’s mental and emotional state. Coaching deeply can be very draining and there are limits.
What may happen within a session?
We will dive right in and see what the client is bringing to coaching today.
There may be updates on progress, or discussion on problems encountered.
Otherwise, we will begin on whatever topic the client brings. From here, we will begin inquiry into the topic and determine what the client wants out of today’s session, given the topic they bring.
Most often, we will explore the true root causes of your condition so that we can derive the most effective resolutions. If we do not, we will end up creating band-aids that will have temporary effect.
We will also then finally determine what is your true goal for the session. Note that after exploration and inquiry, it may end up being something other than what you entered the session with!
Once we have the true goal, then we will work towards discovering a resolution that will be effective for it. We will make sure you have the right tools and support to trying this resolution after our session ends.
What coaching techniques do you use?
I deploy a range of coaching techniques in session. These can be grouped as:
- Traditional coaching via Socratic questioning and thinking/reasoning based methods.
- Somatic coaching of the body and the nervous system’s response to life.
- Energetic coaching and the use of models such as Traditional Chinese Medicine, shamanism, and chakras.
For more detailed information about energetic and somatic coaching, as well as Shamanic Reiki, please see the FAQ for Shamanic Reiki, Energetic and Somatic Coaching.
What do resolutions look like?
The resolutions may be external or internal. External resolutions are the most familiar, like something physical with observable movement. This would be something like committing to scheduling break times in your calendar and holding yourself to not skipping. Internal resolutions are less familiar, where it may mean the resolution is inside yourself. For example, coming to the massive realization that your mother was the cause of all your issues today as an adult could mean that you would want to take some time to reflect on this discovery.
Sometimes, doing nothing is the right resolution at this time, so be open to that fact!
One last note: most often, clients will come into a session wanting help to build a sustainable habit to resolve their issues. In today’s culture, habits are a prominent concept due to some very popular books that were recently written. However, in my experience, habits are only one tool out of the many that are in the coaching toolbox. It *might* be the right resolution for you, OR it totally might not. So be open to the fact that habit building may not be the right resolution for you, even if some habit guru told you so!
How long does a coaching engagement last?
I like to say that a goal would be not to have a guy like me hang out with you for the rest of your life!
Coaching engagements can go into the years if clients are looking for more continual coaching services for their life and work. Or, they can extend into months and years if we are working towards resolution of deep issues that take time to resolve.
More typically, coaching engagements usually last 2-3 months for common projects like discovering passions and creating a new life plan, or finding a new occupation.
Coaching engagements can also be one-off if someone has something they wish to go over and can be resolved in a single session.
What programs or systems do you use?
I do not subscribe to any particular programs or systems that you may have heard of. My coaching is dynamic and tailored to the individual needs of the client.
Can you help me with accountability?
Clients often show up asking if I can provide them accountability. They would like to use the regularity of coaching sessions as a way to create deadlines and opportunities to achieve milestones. Coaching sessions can provide this capability for clients.
Just so you know – my ultimate goal would be for the client to develop ways to be accountable to themselves and not need external sources of accountability. So while we may use our initial coaching sessions as milestone targets, we will usually try to build towards discovering why you cannot be accountable to yourself and its resolution.
Also know that I have had clients who have asked for accountability and subsequently dropped off sessions as well as not completed what they engaged coaching for. Hmmm…where was the advantage then of external accountability if the client decided not to follow it anyways?
If you are looking for accountability, ask yourself – what has you not able to be accountable to yourself?
What happens after and in-between sessions?
Usually after each session, clients will leave with some “homework.” This will be something that the client will work on between sessions.
It will usually follow the SMART goal framework (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound).
As noted previously, it could be something external or internal.
External ones are most familiar to people. Set a goal to take a break from work every day, put it in your calendar and work to not skip. Journal every morning. Set a meeting with your manager to discuss your concerns about your performance.
Internal ones are less so. They would be things that involve thinking, feeling, processing, or integrating some result of the session.
Many “homeworks” can have both internal and external elements.
Will we have regular check-ins on overall progress?
Yes! Approximately every 4-8 weeks depending on the situation, we will have a moment to reflect on our most recent goals set, and where we are in reaching them and other resolutions. We will check to make sure we are working at a pace that is satisfactory to the client, as well as on progress towards desired states.
How do engagements end?
Engagements will end for many reasons, some of which are:
- All client goals are achieved, or on a clear path towards being achieved.
- Client no longer requires coaching sessions.
- Client and coach reach plateau on resolutions obtained, and further work is likely required by another resource.
- Agreed upon working time period has been reached.
How do you take payment?
My main payment processor is Square. I will send bills electronically. There is the capability to save your payment information with Square.
Why would you want to record our sessions?
I do not normally record sessions, but happy to record for two main reasons:
- The client would like a record of the session for their own reference.
- My coaching credentialing requires recording of sessions to submit for application of advancement. I may ask this favor of you at some point. Note that all recordings are confidential and anonymous, and audio only.
Interested? Contact me for a discovery call to see if coaching with me is right for you.