Are You Making Life Choices Based on their Consequences?

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   Natalie Vinokur

   June 7, 2023

   Interesting point. We make decisions based on our values that we are, sometimes, not even aware of. Because we are unaware of them, we naturally evaluate the consequences, which can be positive or negative. When we are more conscious of our values, what can be wrong with our choices and their consequences? We are the ones to say that our decision is good or bad. What am I missing?

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      David Shen

      June 7, 2023

      Thanks for your reply! The point I am trying to make is to try making decisions without considering the consequences, and the freedom it could bring in doing so. Certainly the reality is, that there are many instances where we cannot completely not consider consequences. On the other hand, what if you followed your intuition and made a decision that felt right in your heart and soul, instead of going through a massive pros-cons analysis…?

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         Natalie

         June 10, 2023

         Agree with your point. I will only note that making intuitive decision without going thru logical evaluation requires a degree of self trust, which does not come to many of us naturally. Our brains are designed to interpret unknown as a danger. Without certainty in ourselves , these type of choices create stress responses. And if that decision produced an undesirable results, the feeling of danger would be strengthened and people will fall back to logical evaluation. What do you think?

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         David Shen

         June 10, 2023

         What you describe contains both truths and also talks about a specific set of conditions experienced by some individuals and not all. I do not think our brains are designed to interpret the unknown as danger, but rather what your perception is of what that unknown means to only you. That perception could come from many places, some learned, some inherited, some instinctual, and some energetic. If a decision produces undesirable results to the person that experiences it, I do not believe it automatically would strengthen a feeling of danger in all humans; there are those who embrace uncertainty as a signal that there is an opportunity for growth, for example. The fall back to logical evaluation could happen but someone could fall back to more emotional or even spiritual evaluation. It is definitely a dominant part of today’s world and culture to see way more thinking than feeling or spiritual involvement in these processes. When the body, mind, and spirit are not working together, you have imbalance and you see way more undesired emotions and reactions coming out.

         That is why I coach all 3, body, mind, and spirit together. Traditional therapy and even classically taught coaching technique all work on the mind. Think of all the evidenced based techniques: positive thinking, cognitive behaviorial therapy, and more. They are all reasoning and emotions only within the mind. That is why you see many people go through therapy and coaching and don’t get anywhere. It is when you start looking at why they have lost connection with their hearts, their true selves, bodies and spirit, and then reconnecting and aligning them all, you start seeing some real movement towards healing and moving forward with their lives.