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Year: 2023

  • The Resilience of a Massive Rock in a River

    The Resilience of a Massive Rock in a River

    When I was much younger, I remember being in a time of high stress and change. There seemed to be a lot of things coming at me in life and work.  It was all very overwhelming.  The energy of other people, the demands of getting things done at work, the ambition of moving forward on…

  • Help Me With My Procrastination!

    Help Me With My Procrastination!

    How many of you procrastinate? Not just the occasional thing, but EVERYTHING. Waiting until the last moment to finish work. Avoiding it all until it really needs to get done. Then it’s a mad rush, a huge flurry of activity to finish. And when it is done, you don’t feel good about yourself or the…

  • What Are You Feeling Right Now?

    What Are You Feeling Right Now?

    Hey, how are you feeling right now? Do you know? How specific can you get? Is it something that you can’t quite put a finger on? Or only some general label of feeling? Or something super specific down to the exact identifying emotion? In coaching we like to generate awareness first of what is going…

  • I’ve Got a Podcast for Coaches!

    I’ve Got a Podcast for Coaches!

    It’s the amazing Sandy Swanson, ACC, NBC-HWC, A-CFHC and I taking a humorous and serious look at coaching and our own journeys. We are up to Episode 8 now with Planning and Support, part of our short series on the coaching conversation structure. “Let’s make a plan! This episode is all about helping your client plan action…

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  • Why isn’t My Team Doing What I Want Them to Do?

    Why isn’t My Team Doing What I Want Them to Do?

    Are you a new manager? In my coaching practice, I have many who are new managers and want to become better ones. They often come to me wondering why their team isn’t doing what they want them to do. New managers come with many pre-conceived notions on how to motivate people. Notions about leading, communicating,…

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  • Stress Doesn’t Kill You – Your Mindset About Stress Does!

    Stress Doesn’t Kill You – Your Mindset About Stress Does!

    One of my favorite TED talks is by Kelly McGonigal, a Stanford University psychologist. If you haven’t seen it already, it’s worth a view. We like to say in coaching, mindset is everything. And here, your life may depend on it. There is so much stress we feel now in the world. But what is…

  • Layoffs and the Work Visa = MAGNIFIED STRESS

    Layoffs and the Work Visa = MAGNIFIED STRESS

    So many clients I’ve talked to recently, during this period of many layoffs across the industry, are here on work visas. If you are here on a work visa but don’t have a permanent status via Green Card, AND if you are let go or laid off, then you have 60 to 90 days to…

  • “I Feel Burned Out”

    “I Feel Burned Out”

    Does this resonate with your state of being right now? This article just came across my feeds: Worker burnout hits high worse than COVID-19 peak: survey That workers are feeling more burned out than pre-pandemic, 42% now versus 38% a year ago. Is that surprising to anyone reading this? With recent economic woes and layoffs…

  • What’s Emotion Got to Do With Habits?

    What’s Emotion Got to Do With Habits?

    Following on my Habits Don’t Work post, I’d like to share something that can really help you sustain any kind of pattern in your life. You just need to add emotion to it. How many times have you tried to sustain a pattern without working with emotions? Were you successful? Emotions can reinforce patterns exponentially.…

  • When Therapy Doesn’t Work

    When Therapy Doesn’t Work

    I hear this a lot from my clients. That they went to therapy for years but didn’t experience any worthwhile resolutions. Does this sound familiar to you? This is not to say that therapy never works; but it does bring up the question of what is going on here. The field of therapy is very…

  • Living a Psychologically Rich Life

    Living a Psychologically Rich Life

    Searching for happiness or meaning in life? How about a psychologically rich life? In many of my clients, they tell me they have no purpose in their work or life. This is related to the happiness they feel, which at the moment is not present. There are a number of ways that I coach clients…

  • I Am Wasting My Potential Right Here and Now

    I Am Wasting My Potential Right Here and Now

    I hear this often in my clients. Every day is a grind.No feeling of purpose.No growth.No connection with whatever they are doing. That they are tossing their days into the trash can of life. That where they are now feels so wrong, and a sense that they were made for more in this world. More…

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  • Let’s Talk About Love

    Let’s Talk About Love

    LOVE. But not romantic love. Loving YOURSELF. It’s a concept that is simple but yet for many, self love does not come easy. I’ve had many clients come to me about some initial problem, and after some inquiry it boils down to a deep inability to love themselves just the way they are now. It’s…

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  • Does Your Body React to An Uncomfortable Memory?

    Does Your Body React to An Uncomfortable Memory?

    Last week I had a client who arrived at our session with anxiety at work. After some coaching inquiry, it was revealed that in his previous job, his manager gave him some serious negative grief over missing his sales numbers. Apparently his manager was a student of negative reinforcement and proceeded to make his life…

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  • Reading the News is Taking Your Health Away

    Reading the News is Taking Your Health Away

    This doesn’t come as a surprise: ‘News addiction’ can cause stress, anxiety, study says – ASU News It just validates what we already intuitively knew. Having our noses in our smartphones, endlessly scrolling through negative headlines of our news apps and social media feeds takes our health away. We are: Fearful of the future.Looking at…

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