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Year: 2023

  • Is the Scarcity Mindset Holding You Back?

    Is the Scarcity Mindset Holding You Back?

    Dave Lu has written this amazing post on how the immigrant’s mindset of scarcity, especially passed on to their children, can really hold someone back in all areas of their life. While his post focuses on the Asian American experience, it applies to anyone who comes from an immigrant family, and can be extended to…

  • Cyclic Sighing to Calm Yourself and Lower Anxiety

    Cyclic Sighing to Calm Yourself and Lower Anxiety

    Want an easy way to calm yourself, and potentially remove any anxiety? Enter Cyclic Sighing. Researchers at Stanford University have found this simple breathing technique can relax you quickly as well as lowering anxiety and have you in a better mood all day! And it only takes about 5 minutes! And such powerful results for…

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  • Are You Wiped Out After a Full Day of Work?

    Are You Wiped Out After a Full Day of Work?

    Do you end the work day just completely spent? No more brain capacity at all? Totally exhausted mentally and physically? And in this day of all day Zoom meetings, it’s even more prevalent, right? Just sitting there, staring at the Brady Bunch of meeting attendees, trying to focus and pay attention to what’s being said?…

  • Is Your Life Driven by Avoidance of Pain?

    Is Your Life Driven by Avoidance of Pain?

    Or avoiding discomfort? Some possible negative future event, like lack of money, food, or disease? Or even lack of love? This comes up often in coaching sessions. It came up yesterday in a session where we were exploring their passions. This client had difficulty coming up with his passions. For every one that he came…

  • Dogs Are Smarter Than Humans

    Dogs Are Smarter Than Humans

    We could learn a lot from dogs. Dogs just enjoy the moment. The moment of being with their human. Enjoying the view. The company. The companionship. The human? We’re looking at our phones. Worrying about the future. About what else we haven’t gotten done today. What other people think of us. Who is loving us…

  • Do You Micromanage?

    Do You Micromanage?

    Or maybe you do and you aren’t aware of it? Perhaps you can see it in the discomfort of your team, who bristle at you telling them exactly what and how to do things. Are you always looking over their shoulders? “Checking in”? Maybe…don’t TRUST them to do their jobs? The negative effects are clear.…

  • Do You Procrastinate?

    Do You Procrastinate?

    Delay getting things done? Waiting until the last moment to work on things? And usually getting them done, but feeling crappy about it? This often comes up in coaching sessions. We do often deploy the tools shown in the excellent infographic. However, we always look to what is underneath. What is the root cause of…

  • Are Your Thoughts Toxic?

    Are Your Thoughts Toxic?

    Did you know your thoughts can be toxic? These are the words that you use to describe your own stories. These are the words that you say to yourself every minute of every day. These are the words that you say to others around you. Words have power, driving your thoughts to have many physiological…

  • Are You A Bad Listener?

    Are You A Bad Listener?

    What, me bad at listening? No way! Great communication skills involve great listening skills. If we are trying to build relationships, we need to respect others, and build true understanding of what they are saying to us. It will involve a level of letting go of our own self-centeredness to enable us to truly engage…

  • Do You Quit When the Going Gets Tough?

    Do You Quit When the Going Gets Tough?

    I love Banksy! I would have loved to see him render this one though. Progress is never linear. Acknowledging that it is volatile can be a critical mindset change in your life. How might you feel differently if you EXPECTED that you’ll have moments of accelerated growth as well as moments of backwards movement? That…

  • Connection and Community from Harvard’s 85 year Study on Happiness

    Connection and Community from Harvard’s 85 year Study on Happiness

    How does this research resonate with you? Harvard spent 85 years to generate these results! Connection and community are so important to our happiness and well being. Think of what the pandemic did for that, isolating us for months if not years, creating a remote work situation which further removed us from daily interactions, increasing…

  • ALERT: Crows Can Tell You Are Human By Your Cellphone Use

    ALERT: Crows Can Tell You Are Human By Your Cellphone Use

    Far Side nails it. Crows are smarter than we think! How is this cartoon landing for you? Do you feel like an empty, brainless scarecrow without your phone? Kind of reminds me of the scarecrow in Wizard of Oz! Are you, too, searching for your brain, now that you’ve ceded all thinking to the internet…

  • Do You Love Discomfort or Run From It?

    Do You Love Discomfort or Run From It?

    Man, discomfort sucks right? It feels, well, uncomfortable! Maybe even painful! Do you feel all sorts of feelings welling up inside you when you are in discomfort? All sorts of negative self talk? Something else? Sometimes, rightfully so, you should run away from discomfort, especially if it’s leading to a place of pain and harm.…

  • You Talk Too Much, You Never Shut Up

    You Talk Too Much, You Never Shut Up

    Run DMC, “You Talk to Much”, King of Rock Do you find yourself talking a lot? Over talking even? Maybe even not aware of it? Finding some need to over explain? Justify? Something else inside that causes words to continue to emerge? Sometimes we all over deliver words. We feel the need to keep talking,…

  • Got Spirit?

    Got Spirit?

    Do you have any SPIRIT in your life? Or maybe being SPIRITUAL? Or not? In my profile, I talk about holistic coaching of the body, mind, and SPIRIT. It seems to resonate with many as they tell me so at our first meeting.  But what exactly is SPIRIT?  There seems to be no one definition…

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