Does your life seem filled with change?
Like losing your job, moving to another city.
Formerly close friends becoming distant. Less connected. Unrecognizable.
Families formed by others around you but not you.
Reaching some milestone like your 30s. Or 40s. Or 50s. Empty nester.
Big life events. Family members passing away? Divorce?
Even your interests are changing. Old hobbies being ditched. New interests coming in. Or lack of interest in anything.
Wondering after years of living your current life, now it all feels undesirable. Uncomfortable. Purposeless. Desire for something new and different. But what exactly?
Every week I see clients who come to session talking about these kinds of things in their life. It can be a really uncomfortable place to be, not knowing what is going on, what to do about it, or where to go next.
This is your life in transition.
A time of change. Sometimes massive change- an upheaval.
Sometimes by design. Sometimes not. Sometimes it’s the circumstances. Sometimes by others.
No matter how you got here, change is upon you whether you like it or not, whether you wanted it or not, and you gotta deal with it!
OK Coach Dave, how exactly do I deal with this?
I’m SCARED. UNCERTAIN. ANXIOUS. FEARFUL OF MAKING THE WRONG MOVE.
Heck, I don’t even WHO I AM ANY MORE.
I just know I don’t like WHO and WHERE I AM RIGHT NOW.
Not to worry. WE GOT YOU!
In coaching there are many ways to approach this.
The areas to cover are:
Creating awareness of transition situation and factors.
Acceptance of time of change.
Clearing of fears of moving forward.
Exploration of what could be next.
Discovery of who you are at this moment, and clues to who you might want to be.
The plan and path going forward from here.
If you’re in a time of transition and great change, how does it feel right now? And in looking at the approach above, where are you now? Where do you need further work? What kind of help might you need to get there?