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Year: 2023

  • Are You Listening to the Words That Are Coming Out of My Mouth?

    Are You Listening to the Words That Are Coming Out of My Mouth?

    If so, how exactly are you taking it in? This infographic is very instructive. Most of the clients I meet are strong in analytical, task-oriented, and critical listening. Relational listening is their weakness. How did that happen? Think back to when we needed to listen the most. In classrooms. At work. In meetings. We spend…

  • Living a Life Where You Get to Do Whatever You Want to Do

    Living a Life Where You Get to Do Whatever You Want to Do

    And not what someone else told you to do… Did you grow up with an extremely structured and regimented life? Every day, you’d get up, go to school. After school, you’d have sports. Tutoring. Dinner. Practice piano. Do homework. Lights out at midnight. Wake up. Do it again. Weekends didn’t have school but were somehow…

  • You’re Just An Onion After All

    You’re Just An Onion After All

    We’re all just onions. Did you know that? I was just talking about onions with a client the other day. She happened to show up with the usual massive dump of issues across the board. A regular smorgasbord. And she was the onion in the middle of this meal! But what’s onions got to do…

  • I’ve Lost Control of My Life

    I’ve Lost Control of My Life

    Are you feeling like life is spinning around you and you’ve lost all control of your life? Many of my clients show up to sessions with a feeling of loss of control. Sometimes it is people, situations, and events yanking them around. Other times it is a sense of overwhelm, dejection, lack of direction and…

  • I Hate Presenting in (Online) Meetings

    I Hate Presenting in (Online) Meetings

    The other day I coached a client saying that he was terrible in meetings and that he had severe anxiety giving presentations. Subsequent coaching revealed that this anxiety was not felt pre-pandemic when he gave presentations in a live setting. We also uncovered that this anxiety started when Zoom meetings became the norm during the…

  • Who Do I Talk to About My Miserable Job?

    Who Do I Talk to About My Miserable Job?

    Are you hating your job? Feeling trapped in your work? Nowhere to turn? How true is that? Many clients show up with job complaints. They are unhappy with some or all aspects of their work.  After coaching, we usually end up at looking at possible resolutions. One of the ones that is overlooked is simply…

  • I’m on the ADHD Kids Can Thrive Podcast!

    I’m on the ADHD Kids Can Thrive Podcast!

    Hey I’m on a podcast! Come check out my conversation with Kate Wedlock – Brownfield of the ADHD Kids Can Thrive Podcast on how holistic and somatic coaching can help in ADHD situations. Listen on Apple Podcasts, Audible, Spotify.

  • Did You Onboard into a Remote Job?

    Did You Onboard into a Remote Job?

    How many of you have joined a new company and onboarded while remote? How was it for you? So many people I have coached in the last 2 years that have newly joined a company and have not yet met their teammates nor their manager live yet. It all seems great – work from home.…

  • Pursuing Happiness is Wrong

    Pursuing Happiness is Wrong

    There I said it. Cue the rock throwing…(ouch ouch ouch!) In all the years I’ve spent coaching and even before I was a coach, I’ve never pursued happiness. It felt wrong to me. Unproductive. Limiting even. Merriam-Webster’s definition of HAPPINESS is: A state of well-being, contentment, and joy. Sounds pretty awesome right? Well, not to…

  • Did You Work with a Coach and It Didn’t Work for You?

    Did You Work with a Coach and It Didn’t Work for You?

    Often clients relate to me how they worked with a coach or therapist in the past and nothing happened. However, when we worked together we made progress. What’s going on here? Is it that I’m the most awesome coach out there and everyone else sucks? As much as my ego loves this, it’s simply not…

  • Learning How to Be With Another Person for the Rest of Your Life

    Learning How to Be With Another Person for the Rest of Your Life

    Years ago, a good friend of mine was going through a divorce. He said something so enlightening that it has stuck with me to this very day. It was: Society trains you to become great doctors, lawyers, scientists. You go through 4 years of college – not to mention all the grade school preparatory work…

  • Have You Set Your Intention Today?

    Have You Set Your Intention Today?

    On this amazingly nice sunny day, I set out for a nice ruck with 50 pounds of weight in a pack. When I ruck, or in any workout for that matter, I always set at least one intention.  Today’s intention was a movement cue and to be done with every step of each foot. I…

  • The Best Way to Approach Someone with a Problem is…

    The Best Way to Approach Someone with a Problem is…

    How many times have you had a problem with someone and wondered what to do next? Many come to coaching with this issue. They have a conflict with someone and want to find a way to resolve it.  Once we coach them past approaching them in the first place – it’s generally best to go directly…

  • Did You Solve Any Problems Today?

    Did You Solve Any Problems Today?

    I bet you did.  But I’m not talking about at work, or some task you’re trying to complete. I’m talking about solving a problem presented by another person in conversation. What happened when you did? This comes up a lot in my coaching, especially those coming for relationship coaching, or help in communication. It goes…

  • The Resilience of a Massive Rock in a River

    The Resilience of a Massive Rock in a River

    When I was much younger, I remember being in a time of high stress and change. There seemed to be a lot of things coming at me in life and work.  It was all very overwhelming.  The energy of other people, the demands of getting things done at work, the ambition of moving forward on…

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